Say What You Need to Say – By Thomas Koester

I Love You. The Three Most Powerful Words.

Can three little words truly be so powerful?

I lived through nearly four decades of silence from my father. Four days before he passed I had the opportunity to stay over night with him in the VA Hospital in Martinez, CA. (My father was wounded in action by a missile attack, during the Korean War on September 19, 1952). After the lights went out courage rose within in my heart and I spoke the three most important words that I could speak to the Most important man in my life:


“Yes son.”

Dad, …I love you!

What felt like an eternity of silence filled the darkened hospital room…

…Then, from his weaken condition I heard what my heart and soul had so longed to hear in the 39 silent years I had lived:

“I love you too, son.”

Suddenly, unspeakable joy filled my heart, and tears rolled down my face. I called out to my dad several times that night, saying:


“Yes son.”

Dad, …I love you!

“I love you too, son.”

I heard the voice of my father say he loves me, and it washed all the years of hurt, anger and loneliness from my body, soul and mind. My father’s words were healing and had changed my life from that day forward.

My father’s words helped me to accept my Heavenly Father’s words over me.

“I am my beloveds and he is mine, his banner over me is love!” Songs of Songs.

“See, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreaded day of the Lord. 6 He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” Malachi 4:5-6 (MEV)

Jesus came to me late in the night of October 8, 1998 in that VA Hospital in Martinez California. He bound up my wounds, and healed my broken heart. He set this captive free and released me from a prison of loneliness, despair and anger. He lifted the curse from my life, and in becoming my father’s beloved son, I became God’s also!

“Come away with me my love, my lovely one come. For you with winter is over and gone. The snow has melted and the flowers are in bloom; the cooing of the turtle doves can be heard throughout the land. Come away with me my love, my lovely one come. Your face is beautiful, your voice is sweet. Come away with me my love, my lovely one come.” Songs of Songs

My Dad became my hero and went away to be with the Lord of Life on October 12, 1998. I stood at his right side, holding his hand until he breathed his last breath. He looked up to the ceiling, smiled and then was gone. We all wept so loudly as a family that our cries could be heard throughout the wing of the hospital.

A few moments later, I reached my right hand over my loving fathers face, and I closed my father’s eyes.

Yes, words do matter. Be brave, be courageous and allow your heart to speak its words before it is too late. The “I love you dad,” opened my father’s heart, which had echoed those desperately needed words from him into my hungry and hurting heart and soul.

There is unspeakable power in the three most simple words of; “I love you,” or “please forgive me.” While these words are simple, it takes great courage to say them. Please, don’t be stubborn and don’t be afraid, but do listen and do speak.

“Scripture says, “If you hear God speak today, don’t be stubborn. Don’t be stubborn like those who rebelled.” Hebrews 3:15 (God’s Word)

Don’t let silence kill your life, your joy, or your future. Speak and live!

Watch this John Mayer Music Video and

“Say what you need to say…”

…And let your heart speak.

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